My husband Zack was taken aback and deeply hurt when I asked for a divorce after three decades of marriage. He believed he had always been a good partner. But there was something he never anticipated—the true reason behind my decision.
It’s fascinating how two people can experience the same relationship so differently. Zack saw our marriage as a happy one, while I was silently struggling with my feelings of unhappiness.
Our diverging perspectives finally came to a head on our 30th wedding anniversary, just two weeks after our youngest child moved out. I broke the news to Zack that I wanted a divorce.
He looked at me, stunned and confused. “What?” he asked, unable to process the words. “Who’s getting a divorce?”
“You,” I said calmly. “Or more precisely, I am.”